I went out this weekend to a local bar with Hubby and gf. While I was seated with my gf, some guy came along and bought me a drink. Coincidentally, Hubby was at the bar at the time trying to get us drinks. Hmmmmm…. do I drink the complimentary drink or return it to the dodgy guy who had been eye-balling me all night? You can’t miss the rings on my finger, especially the highly sparkly one that took me months to convince Hubby to buy me.
A few months earlier, I was at a different bar/restaurant with the same gf when some anti-pinkite guy bought her a cocktail but neglected to purchase one for me. Granted I’m legal bound to Hubby but he certainly wasn’t there to object and there was no way anti-pinkite knew that from three tables away! When friendly male waiter realized that anti-pinkite guy had only bought one drink for gf and not me – he got me a drink on the house. What’s more pathetic than being ignored at a bar is when the waiter comps you a drink out of pity! I suppose a free drink is better than no drink so I thanked the waiter and gulped down my beer.
Back to this weekend, g/f said I shouldn’t drink the beer since I didn’t know with any degree of certainty that dodgy guy didn’t douse it with some hallucinogen. I agreed that it was a bad idea to drink the beer so I pushed it toward Hubby and said the drink was complimentary from the dodgy guy at the bar. He drank it and gave dodgy bar guy an evil look.
Men rarely get complimentary drinks, at least not the men that I know. It’s possible that it just doesn’t happen often, or maybe the men that I know are not that attractive. Perhaps it’s because most bartenders are men, and it’s not likely that a man would comp another man a drink, unless he wants his phone number, or alternatively, he’s the man’s friend. In any event, I enjoy the double standard, it evens the inequality that women faced historically relative to entry to bars and restaurants. Not to mention the oppression and sexual harassment in the work place.
Later at another bar, while gf and I were lagging behind Hubby, a Blondie female approached Hubby at the bar. Apparently, it was time for him to buy someone a drink, but before I realized what was happening, gf grabbed Hubby and told blondie that he was with us. Hubby was disoriented and did not know what was happening. I saw what happened and thought it was the cutest scene ever. Mostly because it happened so fast Hubby didn’t even get a chance to respond to her.
Is it me or is there little restraints now when it comes to approaching happily married people. I always thought that emotionally unavailable people were legally and socially unavailable. Unapproachable for obvious reasons because you either get knocked over the head by the pissed off/disrespected spouse or setting yourself up for humiliating rejection. What’s most improper is that it disrespects the other spouse and more so if he/she is at the same table or room. On the hand, it takes lots of courage to do something like that. Others might argue that it’s simply idiotic as you never know if the lurking spouse has been twice convicted of attempted murder and is off his meds. You’re taking a tremendous risk with permanent physical disability.
If I can institute a law it would be to allow everyone to marry because as I see it, everyone should be able to join the institution of emotional dependency, financial deprivation, and inevitable decline of personal sanity.
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